As we head to the end of May, I want to explore one last important aspect of bringing more support for your weight mastery into your life. We have looked at ways to support ourselves and learned about assembling our support team from people in our lives who want to give us a hand.  But what about those who seem to sabotage us, either consciously or unconsciously?  How do we shift them from being a saboteur into a support for us as well.

The Hamburger Technique

We have to understand that most people behave out of habit in their relationships. If someone isn’t supporting you, it usually isn’t from being mean, just unconscious and unaware. Maybe even deep down, they think their actions will bring them closer to you (like bringing you donuts — what a nice gesture — aren’t I generous??) without them knowing how much it works against your deeper goals.

I want to teach you a great technique that works well for SHIFTING a saboteur into a supporter called the HAMBURGER TECHNIQUE.  It help...

How many people are currently helping you with your weight management?  As we head into our third week of “Ask and Allow", I would like you to consider that your weight management journey has more than one person on it.

When we are the only ones supporting ourselves, it can get lonely and disheartening and fattening. There are a lot of people in our lives that may push food on us or tempt us, not because they are mean, but because they just don’t know what to do and how to support us.  We need to train people how to support us for weight mastery.

ASKING FOR SUPPORT FROM OTHERS

When it comes to asking for support from others, many of us are afraid to ask because of past failures:

• I don’t want to draw attention to myself
• I hate to fail publicly
• Nobody will help me they think I’m a lost cause
• My friends will try and sabotage me

Six out of ten clients will say to me, “no one knows I am doing this. I just don’t want to fail one more time.” But, research shows that people doub...

Life never lines up for us to be “good” on a diet. Life is always throwing us curves: crappy days, life drama, maddening life stuff, happy celebrations.  If we are prone to eat over all these turns in the road of life, that road can get pretty twisty.

This month, as we look at seeking support from ourselves and others, I want to explore a powerful intervention tool that I discovered on my own weight release journey.

AM I GOING TO EAT OVER THIS?

A Powerful Question and 3 Slimming Self-Support Responses

I was so pissed off!  How dare they? My two best friends couldn’t make it to my birthday party. Why weren’t they coming? Didn’t they love me? Wasn’t I cool enough?

I was angry and I was eating, chomping away as I processed my hurt.  All of a sudden, I 'came to' as I reached the bottom of the icing bowl. Without even knowing, I had demolished all of the chocolate frosting hours before my birthday party.

Now on top of angry, I felt sick and sad. My friends hadn’t ruined my birthday...

Welcome to May and our theme of ASK AND ALLOW. This month, we are going to really look at our support systems and focus on strengthening them. Seeking out, receiving, and giving support is a huge skill of weight mastery.

No man or woman is an island—weight management is often a huge team practice.

First there is the ”Inner Team” and the way you support (or don’t support) yourself. Then there are the people in your world, your “Outer Team”, your friends and family, your co-workers and the people you run into in your life. Even your local barista is on your team if they are offering you a croissant every day with your coffee.

How are your teams currently supporting you on your daily success with your Mastery?

This first week I would like to start by looking at how you support yourself.

3 LITTLE STEPS TO STOP BEING BOSSY WITH YOURSELF

Just this week I noticed something that reminded of what I used to do when I struggled with my weight.

I was bossing myself.

How did I know I was...